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 James Hay

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1. Take responsibility (straight into the Ouch factor here).  Accept that now you are an adult, you alone decide what goes into your mouth.  You decide what to buy.  If someone in your family can’t go without chocolate biscuits, let him/her buy them and eat them alone.
2. It’s OK to say NO to someone else if you are really saying YES to yourself.  Set and maintain boundaries.
3. Mind your Self Talk – are you talking like a best friend or the biggest bitch?  If you are feeling bad, even more criticism will hinder not help.  Encourage yourself.
4. Acknowledge that healthy choices are a sign of self love, NOT a punishment.  You are saying No Thanks for you, not against you.
5. Choose your words carefully, as it makes a difference to how you feel.  E.g. “Healthy Choices” instead of “Dieting and Exercise”.  “Release” excess weight, don’t “Lose fat”.  If you lose something  it’s generally a bad thing and you have to find it again, quickly!
6. Identify what is causing your empty feeling, and find other ways to fill yourself, instead of food, alcohol, cigarettes. E.g. is the emptiness from feeling lonely, unloved, inadequate?  Hugs, chats with friends, a walk in the sunshine, stroking a pet, dumping it all out on paper before burning it, are all calorie-free.

Remember, the more you practice, the easier it gets.  Be firm but gentle with yourself, and allow yourself to learn new ways of making healthier choices every day.  

If you want even faster progress, so your choices become unconsciously automatic, book yourself in for your time to change.

 Compare these examples:

Q:  Why are my sales so bad?

A:   Because I’m useless.  Because of the economy/the weather/God is punishing me.  Because people couldn’t spot a good deal if they tripped over it.

Vs

Q: What can I do differently to improve my sales? Or: How can I share the benefits of my Widget more effectively?

A:  I can ensure I’m in a positive mindset, smile more and focus on listening to my customers’ needs then I can match my product to their needs, rather than just ‘selling’.  I can change the display so people can touch and try before they buy.  I can talk about all the wonderful results from using it (benefits), rather than talk about the buttons and battery life (features).

In our modern lives we are bombarded with choices every minute we wake, from the clothes, jewellery, cosmetics and shoes we select, where and how we exercise, the breakfast food we eat from the array on offer in our homes, the type of coffee we can make or buy and so on throughout our day. We can thrive on variety and options, or we can feel more and more stressed.

The anxiety you feel is not only from the sense of missing out on those options not chosen, it is intensified when your levels of self trust are low. You second-guess yourself, doubt your own wisdom of choice and spend enormous amounts of energy agonizing over the ‘what ifs’. Other people’s opinions become important, but often are conflicting, with each other, and with your own ‘gut’ instinct, intensifying your confusion and misery.

Some people deal with this by zipping back and forth between options, but of course you can only walk on one path at a time so you waste enormous time and energy going sideways, slowing your progress. Remember, a cheetah only chases one antelope at a time if it wants to eat.

Others deal with the overload of choices by giving their choice to someone else to decide for them. This handing over of Personal Power is rarely satisfactory because people very rarely have our own values and underlying needs. It is also often a burden on the receiver, who also has spent the day making choices, though some love the extra control. It does have the advantage of you not having to take responsibility if the choice doesn’t work out. You can blame someone else, loud and long, or quietly resentfully.

It can start early in life, particularly if children aren’t given the opportunity to learn about choice making and consequences, and how to entertain themselves. It results in the “Mum, I’m bored!” , the classic handing over of responsibility. Later on the same teenagers can freeze on finishing school, overwhelmed by the choices they have in career paths and jobs, feeling they have to choose The one right option for the rest of their lives, and not knowing how. The brighter the child, the more lost they can feel, as the greater their choices.
For most of us the solution is to accept that “You can have anything you want in life, just not everything.” Build our self esteem and self worth so we can make a choice and be happy with that, gaining maximum benefit to the best of our ability, before choosing our next option and thoroughly exploring and enjoying that.

Building self esteem involves leaving your disempowering stories about yourself and your abilities in the Past, where they belong. Building self esteem involves only going out into the Future (those What Ifs) to imagine how well you can do, rather than how bad. It’s about giving yourself permission to learn, grow and evolve. No one does it perfectly first go, allow yourself to enjoy the learning process. Most of all, it’s about really living in the Present, and finding happiness where you are, right now.

Another important aspect of comfortable choice-making is knowing who we are, what’s important to us, and where we want our life path to head. Being clear on our ultimate outcome, that is, our Big Picture for our life, and our goals or signposts along the way, makes it easier to make choices.

All you need to do then is ask yourself, will this bring me closer to or further from what I really want? Will this fried takeaway bring me closer or further away from my outcome of a healthy body for life? Will this promotion bring me closer or further away from my outcome of a close loving family life? Will buying this widget bring me closer or further away from my outcome of overseas travel each year?

In this way you can turn our modern day plethora of choices from a curse into a blessing, and regain your sense of control and peace of mind.

Remember, if you need help getting your self esteem and sense of self worth to where you know it should be, contact me. I can help smooth your path to where you want to be, just as I’ve done for hundreds and hundreds across the globe. Email sue@growingcontent.com.au

When you look at those you call your friends, how many did you choose, and how many chose you, or by circumstance fell into being part your life? The most wonderful friendships can blossom by accident, but we can also get locked into more toxic or tiresome relationships just as easily. You know the ones – the friends who are super needy or critical or superficial – that you spend time with and end up feeling more drained, inadequate or unhappy than you did before. And like a partner, it’s harder to find the right one when you are with the wrong one.

To me a good friend is one that makes me laugh, shares common interests including travel, and can comfortably give me support and nudges as appropriate, but most of all, someone I can just be me with – not the coach, not the successful speaker or businesswoman, just me, warts ‘n all.

How about you? What’s important about friendship to you? Do you need someone who can talk for hours on the phone with you? Or someone to party with, kids free? Someone to talk business or babies with? And where do you find your best friends?

Feb 1 - Free Public Speaking Group Sydney
Checkout this awesome networking event http://www.authenticeducation.com.au/speak/?af=VIP0000493

Feb 4 - How to Become a Highly Sucessful Coach
Highly recommend this 1-day workshop from Benjamin J Harvey: How to Become a Highly Successful Coach http://www.authenticeducation.com.au/coach/?af=VIP0000493 Well worth $27

Feb 8 – How to Sell From Stage (NEW EVENT)
A must for all presenters, salespeople or speakers! http://www.authenticeducation.com.au/sell/?af=VIP0000493 

Feb 29 – Free Speed Networking Sydney
If you haven’t tried speednetworking yet, it’s the best form of networking http://www.authenticeducation.com.au/networking/?af=VIP0000493

Due to demand from across Australia, the Let Go And Grow in 2012  one day workshop has re-emerged as a 3 Part Tele-Master Class for easy access wherever you live. 

 (2 Series: Thursdays pm and Fridays am at the Introductory price of only $97 for whole series!)

 “I can’t tell you enough how great your workshop was for me. I have a renewed sense of myself and have been using the ‘NO’ word quite often if I don’t want to do something. My energy levels are better and also sleeping better. Thank you thank you.”   Karen Farr, eco solar pool heating.

 You will:

STOP!  Self sabotage, disempowering stories, procrastination, excuses

LET GO! Old beliefs, habits, strategies, relationships, thoughts, fears

GROW!  Your satisfaction, business, sucess, contentment, fun.

 Armed with your workbook and your Head Transition Coach, Sue Lester, you’ll not only be revealing your desires and blocks, you’ll be doing powerful NLP processes to create lasting change at the deep unconscious level, so it’s easy to take those actions.,

 “I was a little lost, scattered and overwhelmed. We zeroed in on areas that gave me perspective and understanding of how to super charge my life. Now I’m excited about my future.”  James Alisdair, online entrepreneur.

Bookings:  http://masterclass2012feb.eventbrite.com/

Session 1 CLARITY 

* Clarifying where you are

*  Exploring what you REALLY want

*  Identifying what’s stopped you from already achieving it. 

*  Shedding a problem or two with NLP.

 Session 2 CONFIDENCE

*  Highlighting your strengths

*  Identifying and delegating or educating your weaknesses

*  Stop negative self talk

*  Changing your limiting self beliefs at the deepest level.

 Session 3  MOTIVATION

*  Surefire motivators

*  AYMS signposts to get you there still smiling

*  Time line of action steps

*  Strategic goal installation

BONUS Session

*  Your Q & A

*  Top-up of confidence and motivation

*  For the ‘Motivated’ ticket buyers. 

EXTRA BONUSES

*  Email your personal questions through between sessions.

*  Workbook/resource manual included.

*  Free 1 hour individual Success Map session for those wanting to explore the option of ongoing support, accountability and NLP to blast through blocks in your path as they arise. (Transition Coaching program or Conception Coaching)

Bookings:  http://masterclass2012feb.eventbrite.com/

Series 1  Thursdays 7pm – 8:30pm February 9, 16, 23  (Bonus session March

Series  2  Fridays  11am – 12:30pm  February 10, 24, March 2  (Bonus session March 16)

Telephone/online log in details and instructions will be sent to you with your manual a few days before your first session.  Yes, you can mix and match times to suit your diary.

Any questions needing answers before you leap forward contact sue@growingcontent.com.au

 ”I was feeling stuck with completing my studies and finding balance in all areas of my life. After clear goal setting, timelines and smashing limiting beliefs I no longer feel stuck. I’m clear on my path and I now have the tools to keep it up. It was fantastic!”   Kylie. student and carer.

“I’ am now clear and focussed on my 2012 outcome.”  Nathan McDonald, Black Belt Business

The second secret is to know what ‘successful’ is for you.  We can spend our whole lives chasing someone else’s ideas of ‘success’.  We end up either disillusioned and frustrated because it remains out of our grasp, or disillusioned and frustrated because once grasped we still feel empty and unfulfilled.   What’s the point of a huge house if you don’t have the family and friends to warm it into a home.  What is YOUR measurement of ‘success’?  What needs to happen this year for YOU to feel it’s been a successful year? (Take a moment to jot some ideas down now.)

The third secret is to create your future by setting on a path with guideposts so you know you are still heading in your desired direction, even during storms.  This is often called planning and goal setting.  To be effective, your guideposts need to be AYMS.

A – Achievable at a stretch.  Personal growth stimulates and is the font of contentment and satisfaction.  Know that growth involves discomfort and vulnerability at times, as you outgrow one ‘skin’ and adjust to the next.  Just like a snake who feels constricted, and needs to shed the old skin to continue growing. During the shedding process it is totally vulnerable to predators so it chooses a safe environment.

Y – Yours.  To be compelling, motivating and satisfying, it needs to be for you. Your dreams and your values as it’s your life.  Make it count.  Have the courage to value your own needs ahead of others’, as by doing so you’ll have even more to share. Learn how to set and maintain boundaries.

M – Measurable.  If you can’t measure your success, how will you know you’ve achieved it?  Acknowledge reaching the small signposts as well as the large neon ones, as they keep you on path on a daily basis.  Allow yourself to feel satisfaction, and enjoy the sense of achievement.

S – Stimulating.  Leave out the ‘should’, ‘must’, ‘my duty’ and your perception of others’ expectations, and go for what makes your heart sing – YOUR definition of success.

Fourth, listen to your body. It will tell you when you need to recharge, to rest, to refuel.  It will also tell you when you are struggling and fighting too hard, when really, if you let go and adjust your expectations, your timeline, you’ll free up head space for more creative solutions, an easier way.  You’ll remember that love and connection with others is a valuable fuel too.  You need your body to complete this journey so care for it well, so it lasts the distance.

Your life is now, not tomorrow, so take steps to enjoy it now.

You don’t need to walk alone.  Guides are available. Sue Lester, Head Transition Coach at Growing Content Pt y Ltd, can help you gain the absolute clarity, authentic confidence and sustainable motivation to create and walk your path.  You benefit from having someone to talk to, and to nudge you back on track as needed, plus powerful processes to blast blocks out of your path as they appear.  Book in for your complimentary 1 hour Success Map session with Sue now by phoning 0428 128 679 or emailing sue@growingcontent.com.au , (Available worldwide via Skype or in person Brisbane Qld.)

 P.S.  My definition of success is starting and ending my day with a smile on my face and a warm glow of contentment inside.  For me that absolutely involves enough money to give me freedom of choice, particularly so I can continue to travel, but also for the satisfaction of helping others.  Success, for me, is also deep connections with people rather than just fame, and meaningful activity each day. I want to die knowing I have made a difference.

Any festive goodies not already consumed can be packed up and given away, and stock up your fridge and pantry with the kind of fuel your body needs to thrive instead.  Ensure you include protein every meal, drink 2 L filtered water every day, limit bread, pasta, rice and fruit, get rid of sugar and fried foods, and if you need alcohol choose wine over beer or spirits with soft drink mixers.  Ideally eat your evening meal before 7pm, or have your main meal in the middle of the day.  

If you are a morning person, set your alarm earlier and as you do that each night, commit to getting up immediately it goes off in the morning.  Have your exercise gear laid out so you don’t have to think about anything to get out the door, or into your home gym/pool/exercise DVD.   If it fits your routine to exercise at lunchtime or on the way home after work, do that – make it work for you, and make it something pleasant, enjoyable or at least not something you hate doing!  If you need accountability get someone else to meet you, hire a personal trainer or go to a class.

Remember to nourish your relationships as well as your body, focus on what you do want rather than what you don’t, and above all – speak respectfully to yourself.  Don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t say to your best friend.

Your life is now, not tomorrow, so enjoy it now.

p.s. if you need help with weight release, non-smoker conversion, or motivation to make change please email me to discuss and book a convenient time.  Skype sessions available worldwide.