During a recent chat in a coffee shop with a coaching client, it came out that I’d been in an abusive relationship for 8 years – I used it as an example to illustrate what can happen when you give the meaning of “I’m not worthy of true love” to unrequited love. You can, as I did, settle for much much less, and get sucked into the abusive relationship vortex which continues to take you down, destroying self identity and supportive relationships. My client was shocked as she thought I had it all together, and so must have been always like that.
So, I’ll let you into a little secret – I’m human! And yes, I have grown and evolved (and intend to continue to do so) , and am much more in my personal power than I was back then, braver and more resilient, and more willing to take responsibility for my life and how I respond to everything that happens in it. But I’m human, so I have low energy days when I procrastinate, grumpy days when my partner can’t do anything right, bless him, and can feel hurt when friends don’t respond how I would (and of course they aren’t me so how could they?) Sometimes when I automatically start coaching myself out of the gloom I tell myself to shut up and butt out, so I can wallow in my pity pit!
The point is, I’m a work in progress too, just like you, and as long as I’m continuing to improve and grow and be the very best Me I can be, I’m doing just fine. Coaches, therapists, personal development devotees can sometimes, at the beginning at least, get caught up in ego or in the delusion that they are somehow perfectly ‘fixed’ now, and will live a superior positive life from that point on. Just know that no matter how much money you make, how successful you are, how many of your dreams come true, you are still human, with ups and downs, and that’s perfectly how it always will be.
And that, like you, is OK.
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